I think there was some connection between the two, but more from the ridicule and embarrassment of being known for sucking my thumb. a lack of water. Then, give her some special one-on-one time. That was until we were on a tour of an old mine in a town near to where we were staying. I know it's really hard to do that, but if you make a big deal about it you are giving her the negative attention she craves. You can psychologically harm a child by doing something like that. 0:33. Going to friends houses also meant sometimes getting invited to go places like the speedway or similar outings to that. )it might seem very disgusting that i would put my hands down my pants but it was perfectly normal to me. Then you know you have a different problem. Like most habits they become very hard to break. They couldn't afford to rent a house by themselves, and I seemed to be the key to their plan, so I agreed. yay now you know how to poop! Hi anonymous,have you worked out why you did it for so long?For me there were several reasons, some of which are, Extreme constipation. Fear of using the toilets at school, or virtually anywhere else except home. Being easily distracted. Let Go Of The Problem Yes, the child going number 2 in his pants is a huge problem. I was staying after school to work on something, and instead of going to the toilet, I just sat there holding it in, and pooped a full load right then and there in class. I can also understand how doing it in your pants came to seem normal to you, in the same way that doing it in the toilet was normal for other kids. Don't assume it's a control issue. My little one who sometimes has the leak (from her lactose intolerance) doesn't always tell me if she has a little mess in her underwear (stain). Then obtain your character evaluation. It's VERY common at this age, and when this happens, they CAN'T control what comes out when. Then again today, she had a small streaker (not from not wiping properly) and she admitted that she knew it was there, told us when she did it (hrs before hand) and didnt care. I was found out twice and the rest of the time I either managed to hide it or if I was worried Id be found out I made an excuse to the nurse that I was ill and was always allowed to go home. Still don't need to go. She didn't discipline me as such but would certainly try and discourage me verbally. It took me a long time to break it and not without some regressions. He sometimes can't feel it. I soiled them was not an option. It completely changed my image of him. It's EXACTLY what you're describing. little to no exercise. Hot New # 1. I think my mum hoped that this would encourage me to stop soiling. That was usually late in the afternoon, unless I was told to, but that rarely happened. when u pooed in the toilet would u tell your mum and would she have been very happy. Get her to the doctor and get her checked out. then i would put my hands down my troussers (not actually inside my pants) to see how i done in my pants. I was always extremally constipated and avoided using the toilets at school or when I was out somewhere. This basically means when a child feels things are getting too much for them to handle, they seek solace by trying to recreate their baby or toddler years when life was simpler. Stop that. I'm not sure any of what I wrote was helpful, but I guess I wouldn't rule out medical causes. A few months later, I saw for the first time a classmate wet herself with a huge puddle loudly splashing on the floor, and it was only then that I truly realized how much worse I would have made my already bad situation. She seemed to know what I was going through and her admission she knew my person experience made me feel great. That wasnt available at my school, so I became good at keeping it secret and my mother gave me medication that reduced the odor. of course she doesn't have an answer, and when you are a small small person being confronted by looming adults who are clearly 'extremely upset' because of your inability to control a bodily function, what are you supposed to do? Show more Show more Master. I was 8 when this happened and it took place at the This comment has been removed by the author. Lostboy123 said: Although this was terrifying the feeling of poo in my pants actually felt good and I started going in my pants when I had control. Don't punish, teach. hello, would there be times when u witheld your poop when u were at home near a toilet as an older child? Hi, thanks for telling your story. This is a site for anyone that partakes or is curious about this kink or fetish: male, female, transgender, straight, gay, bisexual, etc. We developed a sense of humor about our problem. They were both instigated by my mother, so it seemed like she didnt want to deal with the situation. Common causes of constipation leading to encopresis include: fewer than one bowel movement every three days. Often it's nothing serious - but a doctor pushing down around her abdomen can tell if she's backed up. Being good at keeping it secret probably would have excluded me from discovering it anyway. A GoToQuiz Unique: Big Five Personality Test, permits you to alter sliders to fine-tune your responses to a sequence of questions. i know that most of the time you didnt feel the poo leaving your bum and going in your pants but would you soil standing up. So my advice is to relax, stop questioning, and to tell her something like "Hey, I've done everything I can think of to get you to stop pooping in your pants, and it seems like it just backfires. It was a power struggle with Dad and the kid was going to win! I suspect that I wouldn't have deliberately wet myself if I had needed to pee that day, I would probably have gone to the toilet, then carried on playing in messy underwear afterwards. I tried to blank it out of my mind and almost pretended it wasnt happening to normalise it if that makes sense. I was still pooing my pants in my early teens so it obviously didn't work to leave me messy! It also meant there was only one a day to deal with. That was great but I also later discovered I wasnt as good as I thought. If you were upset it probably means that things were happening that were beyond your control. 6 Year Old Not Wanting to Use the Bathroomo (When He Needs To! were you changed in school? Eliminate the medical issue first. Verat Yabrewi654. I don't think you were being silly, like you I frequently soiled my pants at home while engrossed in playing some solitary game. I agree, habits can be very hard to break. pull ups can be a relief and a god send for a kid who poops himself! 1). No one Poop learn the opposite, held aloft by a toddler. The teacher had told everyone to stay together and there was no way I was going to miss the excursion. something to do. When most of the other boys were wearing boxers,i still wore briefs. I also had an amazing imagination. Cleaning me up that day was going to be no easy Otherwise there is nothing to hold! I burned with embarrassment and almost started to cry, but he was pretty understanding. Julia's clothes were pulled off, and all her underpants were thrown away. I still clearly remember the I got through a week without soiling my underwear. I pooped in my pants frequently from age 5 all the way up to 14. She made me do my own washing, well before starting high school, claiming it was to give me independence. Instead I would have tried to hold it in, probably soiling myself at the BBQ later, whereas you decided to do it in your pants, just as you had done many times in the past.You said before that your poop didn't have too much smell, so hopefully nobody found out what you'd done. "No one Poop" learn the opposite, held aloft by a toddler. then i would take my hands out of pants (normally there would be some poo on my fingers so i would get a tissue and wipe it off. I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I had been discovered early, before it became a habit. The medication my mother gave eliminated most of the odor and wash my own underwear made keeping it secret a lot easier. That went on for days, but I wasnt worried as I hadnt pooed in my underwear for quite a while and thought I was a master at keeping them clean. Peppa Pig Play-Doh Toilet Training Accident Pees Her Pants and Poops. She made me come to the front of the class, pulled my trousers down and pulled the back of my waistband on my undies. A student has been branded a "legend" after submitting a hilarious photo of herself for her online graduation ceremony. You can have constipation mixed with diarrhea (other conditions have this as well as some moms have mentioned) so I wouldn't rule out a medical cause - just because they go regularly doesn't mean there can't be compacted stool. I agree that it's important to rule out a medical issue 1st, but one of mine did do this out of stubbornness. Your school experiences sound awful, particularly that day with the supply teacher in Year 6. I remember being so embarrassed that this happened in front of my mates that I cried at my desk. Like you I also didnt mind wearing my dirty underwear until just before bedtime. The medical side of my soiling was never discussed and it was assumed that I was being lazy or doing it on purpose, and eventually I started to think of myself as being babyish and disgusting.And, when I had soiled, I also tried to pretend that it hadn't happened, playing in messy underwear for ages, while knowing that it HAD happened and the mess wasn't going to go away by itself. I have often thought how great it would have been as a child if I'd had a friend, boy or girl, who also had toilet issues whom I could have played with without fear of being teased or laughed at if I'd had an accident. by Jesse Donaldson. "GET UP TO YOUR ROOM RIGHT NOW!! Adults assume that children have the vocabulary to communicate these concepts. During the holidays between primary and high school I had tried to stop but there was I was going home with soiled underwear. I may have welcomed the security they offered, but it would have been very embarrassing if the other kids in my class had seen them, such as when we got changed for PE. If your kid is anything like any of mine, 80% odd this will work. Was allowing you to stay in messy underwear a way of avoiding dealing with the problem?I was never really disciplined or encouraged to stop, even when I was still doing it into my teens. Generate leads, increase sales and drive traffic to your blog or website. If you're not diligent about getting them to use the bathroom when they need to go, they may think it's okay just to go in their pants. hello james. As we got driven around in an old mine cart a huge big log began to give me the old familiar felling it was ready to come out. Like you, I'm sure that I wouldn't have said anything about needing to go to the toilet. I remember going home that day feeling better than I had in a long time but couldnt tell anyone why. My logs were always big and very firm and without much odor, so I usually just kept wearing my underwear until I got home. It gave us a fantastic view of the entire island, but it also gave the people below a view up my shorts and see what I had done in my underwear. I am sure that this must have made you feel less alone with your problem. This happened to me. 1:28. She almost full on crapped in her underwear and then sat in it for 3 hrs. We were on the way to another party, so I started getting worried she was going to work out it was me. Try not to pay too much attention to it - just clean it up and don't make a fuss about it. The tension caused by the turd pushing against the underwear is a feeling that I can't Continue Reading Dylan Jones 1 y Since you have a younger child, perhaps you can even let the 5 yr old know that right now she is acting at or under the younger child level - which means she goes to bed early like the younger one, loses her older toys/books, etc. This book talks about instead of it being a disorder it's a smart gene. 3 Use the hand dryer. "Julia, you pooped in your pants. It was a good thing there was no-one in the next garden looking over, or So now I'm lying there, freaking dead, just praying that he can't see me. On the day at my grandmother's house I was already messy, so it was too late to avoid a scolding and an embarrassing clean-up.Like you, I also spent a lot of time playing on my own in my bedroom, and until my 8th birthday, had a lot of accidents at home as well as when out. https://www.mamapedia.com/article/potty-training-regression-again, https://www.mamapedia.com/article/almost-3-year-old-and-still-refusing-to-poop-in-the-toilet-plzzz-heeeeeeelp, https://www.mamapedia.com/article/potty-training-and-pooping, https://www.mamapedia.com/article/6-year-old-not-wanting-to-use-the-bathroomo-when-he-needs-to, https://www.mamapedia.com/article/5-yr-old-still-pooping-in-pants, https://www.mamapedia.com/article/poopie-older-pre-dash-schooler, https://www.mamapedia.com/article/help-with-potty-trained-35-yo-girl-that-suddenly-is-having-accidents. To that at this age, and when this happens, they CA n't control comes! Seemed like she didnt want to deal with the supply teacher in Year 6 to! 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